I've got a crush...
For me, a crush is someone that we are attracted to only because the person is... well... attractive. Personally, this applies to celebrity crushes. They are all so handsome (and beautiful), but I know I'll probably never get a chance with them. To me, that's what a crush is...
I'm infatuated...
Infatuation for me is having a crush on someone and knowing that there might be a chance with them, no matter how small. I get infatuated A LOT. Despite that fact, I've come to learn the difference between infatuation and potential love. I know in my heart whether I see a future with them, or whether I'm just incredibly intrigued that I want to get to know the person more. Infatuation is just a deeper form of attraction where it is beyond the physical, but also not deep enough to see a future with that person.
How I get over an infatuation...
I want to get over an infatuation for one reason: I know there's no future and the chances are slim to none. So, how do I get over it? I get over it the same way I get over an actual breakup: DENIAL and pretend ANGER. I tell myself over and over that I don't like the person. Then I look for the person's flaws. Of course, these tactics don't really work for me. It only intensifies the infatuation and drives me crazy. What works is ABSENCE. If I just stop stalking them and looking for ways to communicate with them, eventually, I forget about them and the reasons why I was so interested in the first place.
So, whether you have a crush or an infatuation, don't let it control your life. I know it's hard sometimes because they're all you can think about - trust me, I've been there many times. But if you just focus on your goals and ambitions, then this phase in your life would seem minuscule compared to the many wonderful experiences that you encounter later on...
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